Today I am thankful for some amazing fathers who took the time to write letters and books to their daughters about things they wanted their girls to know about the world. What prompted this post? I was watching the Today Show as I folded laundry. A father, Dr. Kelly Flanagan, was featured on the show. He wrote a letter to his daughter when he was in the make up aisle of a major retail store. He saw words and phrases pertaining to beauty like brilliant strength, choose your dream, naked, infallible and age defying all of them in reference to physical beauty. He took those same words and phrases and wrote something totally different. It was still about being beautiful, but a different kind of beautiful. I think I loved the last one on his list the most (although I loved them all) . . . . flawless beauty. This is what he wrote “Your finish has nothing to do with how your face looks today and everything to do with how your life looks on your last day. May your years be a preparation for that day. May you be aged by grace, may you grow in wisdom, and may your love become big enough to embrace all people. May your flawless finish be a peaceful embrace of the end and the unknown that follows, and may it thus be a gift to everyone who cherishes you.” How could I say that any better?
And, as if this post isn’t long enough . . . it reminded me of a book that I discovered years ago that I absolutely love. It is called “Boys Will Put You on a Pedestal Just to Look Up Your Dress” by Philip Van Muching. It is a book he wrote to his girls after he was almost in an accident and it is all the advice he wanted them to know just in case. It talks about Life, love, relationships and lots of other things including my favorite chapter was about tattoos.
Raising daughters is hard work (raising children is hard work) so it is nice to have these fathers impart their wisdom and their gift of the written word to help us out.