This is one of my all time favorite pictures of me and my Nanny. She passed away a couple years ago. I miss her. I don’t have a lot of pictures of her, but I have tons of memories. Quite a few of my favorite and most vivid childhood memories are of her. This picture was taken just after my 1st birthday. Speaking of birthdays . . . today is my birthday. Every year on my birthday (or within a day or two) I take minute to think about my life. I jot down some things about me and who I am right now. I write one thing for each one of my years. I’d like to say that it is only 39 things, but it is 42 things about me. Some of them are funny and some not so funny and a little more serious (although I try not to take myself to seriously). If you wanted to learn a little bit more about me . . . here it is.
Who I Am & What I Have Learned & What I Think
[ after 42 years of life & 20 years of marriage ]
You are the only person who can define happiness for yourself. And, no one is responsible for your happiness (or your misery) but you. Own it.
A happy marriage is what you define as a couple. It’s not a fairytale, it’s real life.
I am a work in progress . . . hard hats and safety glasses required.
Sometimes you just need to ask for what you want.
My husband (and my children) are not mind readers.
Be careful what you say and do (and who you say it to) because words can’t be unsaid and actions can’t be undone. And, people who you trust will throw you under the bus to save themselves.
Forgiveness is one of the hardest things you can do, but also it is the most important thing you can do for yourself.
I don’t like RUDE people. They will get the best of me every time.
Every day I wake up and I want to be a better person. Some days I succeed. Some days it is an epic fail. I am grateful that there is always another day to try again.
“The days are long, but the years are short.” Amen.
My husband will NEVER voluntarily clean a toilet, but when I need him to step up he is always there for me. That’s okay because I will never voluntarily negotiate with a car salesman.
I like my alone time. I mean I REALLY like my alone time.
I love sending thank you cards. I want you to know that I appreciate the time and energy and money you spent on me, or that you’ve done something for me. I want to take the time to let you know it. But, it doesn’t bother me when I don’t get them.
My high school friends are some of the most important people to me. They probably don’t know it because I don’t see them all that often and we don’t talk on the phone. It is just good to know that they are there if I need them.
I don’t think there is a perfect parent. My only hope is that my children grow up to productive members of society who find happiness and love (for themselves and others), and live gracefully in a world that is amazing and challenging.
I am a little silly. I think that keeps me sane. Sometimes I find it necessary to make my own fun.
I am never lost (literally and figuratively). I am on an adventure.
I honestly do not care where we eat when we go out to dinner.
Parenting is the hardest thing in the world. I think that it gets harder and harder as they get older. I miss the days when I could change a diaper and fix their problem.
I think the best things we can do for our kids is to let them fail. Let them figure out how to fix their own problems and deal with their own issues. But, it is the hardest thing in the world to let them fail and watch them struggle. It builds character.
I hate participation trophies.
It’s just life. It is busy, it is chaotic, and it is stressful. Isn’t everyone’s life? My problems could be so much worse. But, life is also fun, it is full of surprises, it is wonderful.
I am a horrible singer, but I love to sing. I hardly ever know the words, but that doesn’t stop me.
I believe in second chances, but don’t ask me for a third chance. I will forgive you, but I won’t forget.
I rarely have regrets. But, I do have quite a few life lessons in my pocket.
I am not very good at balancing the things in my life.
I love lists.
Sometimes I will go back and put things on my list from that day just so I can check them off.
I iron my dollar bills that go through the washing machine and dryer.
I should put learning how to balance my life better on the list.
I spend too much money and I don’t save enough.
I believe you should be friendly with your neighbors, but you don’t necessarily have to be friends with your neighbors.
I almost always make my bed in the morning. It sets the tone for my whole day.
I am stressed out if my kitchen is a mess (you would think that my family would know this about me by now.)
I believe in karma.
There are consequences and the punishment should fit the crime.
I don’t believe higher education is the key to success. Don’t get me wrong, I think education is important and it comes to us in so many ways whether it is a college, trade school, life experience, etc. I think it is more about being an honest, hardworking person making smart decisions that make you successful.
I believe you should never make it harder than it has to be. Whatever happened to keeping it simple?
I love sweet tea, Oreos and peanut butter cups, flip flops or going barefoot, everything Fall, pictures, homemade chocolate chip cookies, chips and salsa, all kinds of music (well almost all kinds), romantic comedies and stupid comedies, inspirational quotes.
I don’t think everyone needs to believe in God. I just think you need to believe in something. He has been good to me and He has been there for me. But I know that just because you sit in the front pew at church every week, it doesn’t mean you are a good Christian or a good person.
I love my children equally, but I do not love them the same. They are individual human beings with different wants and needs which change as they grow older and older.
I hope that I have lots more livin’ to do, but when the time comes I hope that I “won’t cry because it’s over, but smile because it happened.”